Men and babies...difference?

My goodness men can be difficult sometimes!!! I'm trying to help Adam get all his stuff together so he can be a fully functioning almost Brit, but its hard work. And costly!!! We got his identity card and leave to remain sorted but there are a whole bunch of other ducks to get in a row. Like getting him registered with a Dr and getting him a bank account and a national insurance card. And I haven't even been thinking about my own ducks, who knew there were SO many people to contact about getting your name changed over. Why did nobody notify me that men can be such babies! I feel like I go over and beyond for him, I do so much and it goes so unnoticed. Or at least unthanked. Grr. Just a little moan! lol! Feel mucho better now!

He can STAY!!!

So, six months after he arrived, Adam and I take a little trip down to Croydon to do the next step of the immigration process. For weeks we'd (really me) been agonising over getting all the necessary documents together. Making sure the pictures were to specification. Trying to think of how we'd possibly come up with £665 to pay for it. I still find that amount hard to swallow. And the best part is, you pay them before they look at your application and if its denied you don't get any of your money back! But after waiting 4 1/2 hours, they said YES!!! He can stay for up to 2 years, after which we have to go through this and more all over again, but I'm not thinking about that right now!
He can work. He can go to the doctors or dentist. He can drive. He can STAY! lol!

my hiney hurts

I was off work today and boy was I happy about it. I usually get Fridays and Wednesdays off, but I've also booked tomorrow off because I've a kids birthday party to go to. Its nice to have 2 days off in a row, I can relax and I don't have to think about work again until Sunday.

So Adam and I just had a lazy morning on the couch watching TV. On my days off I like to take the opportunity to catch up on my shows, but its getting to that time of year when the season is ending. I have ER, Greys Anatomy, Desperate Housewives, Gossip Girl, Heroes, Brothers & Sisters, The Hills, Fringe and John & Kate Plus 8. There were many more but they've sadly come to an end for many months to come. Adam doesn't approve of any of the shows I watch, except one. He thinks that The Hills is overly scripted and full of drama, he HATES that I get entertainment from shows like that. The only show we can sit and enjoy watching together is John & Kate plus 8. I know they've been going through a hard personal time according to the media, but we enjoy watching their show and watching their family dynamic. Adam thinks John is so funny and I just love the things the kids come out with, like "will you kiss my hiney, my hiney hurts". They make me want to have a baby every time I watch the show. Which is why I should never watch it after a few glasses of wine!

We watched my shows and a movie, Almost Famous, with Kate Hudson whom is one of my favourite actresses. It really was just a couch potato morning. But afterwards we went to play tennis, which considering he's only played 3 times in his life, Adam is really good at. At first I was kicking his butt, but then he had me running all over the court. Now that its getting warmer and the days are lasting longer, we can do stuff like that. And I really enjoying playing or watching tennis.

After our tennis game we went to the grocery store to get some chicken and I was completely shocked and disgusted as some of the packages they had there. Most of the chicken looked brown and nasty. Most of them had a use by date of 16th May and to my horror, I found one with a use by date of May 14th. I went and told some guy who didn't at all seem bothered and Adam reckons it'll end up back on the shelf. I'm not sure if anyone else does it, but I always check use by dates. Always. And I reach to the back because that's usually where things with the longest shelf life are.

So I came home, cooked chicken fajitas for my brother and chicken salad for me and Adam. We all had the same chicken which made my life so much easier because one thing I hate is having to cook different meals to suit different tastes and requirements. I am not a short order cook. This is not a restaurant. But sometimes Adam gets so annoyed if I say that this is what I'm cooking take it or leave it. So he'll cook his own stuff, which suits me just fine.

I'm about ready to head to be because I am pooped!!! Tomorrow is my niece and nephews joint bday party. She'll be 2 on Sunday and he turned 4 last month. So I'm looking forward to that and my diet will just have to bend for a slice of cake...and I've been craving jello so I won't be holding back there either. I'll have to add some pictures next week.

I hope everyone has a wonderful and blessed weekend. Be safe.

The First Day

It's been a long time since I've written anything here, I guess I kinda forgot that I had a blog in the first place. So much has been going on and let me start firstly by saying, I'm MARRIED! But not to Adam...only joking! He moved over here in January and honestly the time has flown by so quickly. We got married on April 18th and it was a truly lovely day, I have pictures on my kodak page so anyone who would like to see them just let me know your email address. It was a rather small civil ceremony, just close friends and family. But it was everything I've wanted for such a long time, it was Adam and I making a promise of forever. I'm so glad that he's finally here, we've both waited a long time for this to happen. But we still have a bit of a journey ahead of us, we have one final step in the visa process that will allow him to stay permanently and start working. And then, I think, we can feel like more of a married couple. We won't have to worry about being countries apart anymore and can finally start doing things we want. The only reason we have finished applying is the £665 charge that goes along with it. Boy, when we fell in love I had no idea how expensive it was going to be. Plane tickets and phone bills and visa applications. And then, when we apply for my visa to the US in a couple years, we get to do it all again. I can barely stand the waiting process, the not knowing if a visa entry clearance officer, thinks that you're relationship is genuine. If they think you're going to financially support your spouse. It's not a bowl of cherries, but Adam is certainly worth it.

Since Adam has been here, we've had a few small rows. Usually he'll storm off somewhere to calm down so we can discuss things. But I find I don't usually get all angry and heated like he does. Its funny because its a whole other dynamic fighting with someone in person, we never really fought when we were visiting each other. We would much rather use our time soaking up as many hugs and kisses as possible. But I love the fact that we're both determined to sort through our problems and find a compromise. Today's compromise involves me going to the gym and eating right, which of course I know is good for you. I just wish it was such hard work! I do want to loose weight, I don't feel that just because we're married now I can do whatever and look however. But I've just not been motivated or bothered of late and I guess that it really bothers Adam. So, in an effort to be healthy and have the body of a 23 year old not a 33 year old, I'm going to the gym and cooking chicken salad for dinner. I do want to try and stick with it, but we'll see.

musings

Adam will be here in just a few days. I'm really looking forward to seeing him, this is what we've been waiting for, praying and hoping for since we first met. In the beginning we had no clue on how we were going to make it to the same place at the same time, then the magic happened. It's exciting but strange and scary too. We've never lived together, we've never even lived near each other. He'll be completely alone in a new country all except for me and the people in my life. I can't help but feel that might be scary for a person...but if it is for him he's not opened up to me about it.

I'm spending my days wondering what I'm going to do with my life, with myself. I'll be going back to school in the fall but right now I've taken time off so that I'll have money coming in until Adam and I are set up. But I know for sure that I want to go into Politics. I just care way too much about society and about having the best people doing the best possible job for society. I watched this documentary about the most dangerous school in New Orleans. Just about the lack of hope and opportunity. Adam and I have VERY different opinions on such social issues, let's just say he's into a "every man for himself" kind of Republicanism. But I sit there and watch a documentary like that and wonder why more isn't done to prevent such dismal situations. It frustrates me that so many kids don't make it through high school because they get pregnant or get killed. Or that they just don't think they can do anything with their lives. A young girl gets pregnant by a guy who doesn't stick around and even though she's seen it before with her own mother or sister or cousin, she still falls into the same trap. Of course, teenage pregnany happens everywhere and for all kinds of reasons. But education, sex education and life education would surely stop that from happening. I can tell you for sure that I don't wanna get pregnant right now, at 23 I'm way too young. I want to enjoy myself and travel and be able to do something at the drop of a hat.

I don't believe that little old me can save the world, but I'm sure gonna try and make a difference. Shouldn't everyone.

Adam got his visa. I still can't get over how quick the whole process was. After months of us worrying and stressing that we didn't have everything together just right. That we didn't have enough money. We got our visa! It only took them a few days to approve and send it back. The thing we've dreamed of for so long. The invisible bridge that would bring Adam and I together and finally let us live our lives together. Its crazy, its something I've wanted for so long. Wanted to bad, its hard to believe that it's happening. He'll be here in just a few short weeks and the best part...I won't have to let him go again. He'll be mine and me his, for the rest of our lives.

Christmas Blues

Christmas has always been my favourite holiday. Its always possessed a magical feeling to me and I just remember them being full of love and fun. Of course, now my brothers have families of their own so there are fewer of us together for dinner. But they come around on Boxing Day and we exchange gifts and eat leftovers. So for me, as someone who loves Christmas, the best possible gift ever would be to have Adam here. We've never spent a Christmas together and every year we always say to each other, next year. next year. next year. Well, I guess our first Christmas together will have to be next year. Even though I've got everything ready to send to him for his visa, even though we've never been this close to getting his visa before. I just don't think its going to happen in time for Christmas. And even if it does, I just don't think we'll be able to afford the December flight prices. Common sense dictates that we should save money and book in January. But Christmas doesn't fall in January. It falls in December and I won't get the Christmas magic of sharing my favourite day with my family and my fiance. I guess its just a reminder of so much of my life. Its either something with Adam or something with my family, but the two are never mixed. I guess I'm feeling a little lonely and sorry for myself. But it doesn't help when all they play at work are Christmas love songs. Please Come Home For Christmas. Lonesome This Christmas Without You. And of course, ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS YOU...